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| | I know it's been a while, and much has happened since my last post. I've still been very busy with life and haven't had the motivation to update this. I also feel guilty for neglecting everyone, but here I begin a new post with my tail between my legs. I hope you are all well and thank you for sticking with me!
To update my previous post, I tried to push aside my feelings of jealousy to pursue a friendship with my Romanian neighbour. I invited her out to dinner a couple of times, offered to show her around, and spent many nights at her place smoking cigarettes and chatting.
Unfortunately, it's not working out well for me. I promise, it has nothing to do with my initial jealousy of her. Allow me to explain.
Knowing that she is new to the country/city with no one around, I had no problems helping her out financially and with groceries. I've bought her groceries, loaned her money, had my husband set up her computer for her so that she could leach off our internet until she got stable financially, given her packs of cigarettes, given her food, drinks, let her use our microwave whenever she wanted, ny husband would drive her places, and the list goes on and on.
While I had no problem helping her and doing these things, I started to feel like maybe I was getting used. Why? Because anytime we did get together to go anywhere, she would ditch me half-way through to go out with a guy. Or she would cancel our plans all together for something better to do. Also, she would claim she only had 30 dollars left to her name, yet she would purchase cable (which she really can't afford right now), or she would buy a microwave, paintings, curtains, etc. All of these things were things she did not NEED. But doubting myself due to that initial reaction of jealousy, I kept my annoyance to myself thinking it was my problem.
Then she became annoying in that she would call 6-8 times a night within a 5 hour period. Many times she would just hang up and redial. If I don't answer the phone and let the machine pick up, you better believe that I'm busy or just want to be alone. Busy as in.. my husband and I making love, or taking a shower, or taking a shit, or just watching tv and trying to unwind. And of course, everytime I called her back after feeling gulty hearing messages like <whine> "I haven't heard from you in days! Are you still alive? What's wrong?" she would then ask to borrow money or to use our microwave or something. It's never for my company alone, there's always something she needs done. And god forbid if you say "I'm sorry, but I can't do that right now, money is tight" or "I'm really tired tonight, can we do it another time?" because then I hear more whining and little snide comments that makes me go over there to put up with her crap just so she'll stop calling.
Getting the idea that I'm a bit of a pushover? Yes. Anyway, everyone has flaws, we all know this. But some people have flaws that you just cannot live with. She treats men like crap, uses them, is extremely needy and, for lack of a better term, an attention whore. This girl, in the month I've known her, has seen up to roughly 20 men. That's not the problem. She claims she's looking for that special someone to marry someday, yet she'll tell me about these men she's dating and what she doesn't like about them. For example, "He's a really nice guy and he's taken me out to dinner and given me free furniture, but he has really bad teeth.. then again, that can be fixed." Or "he's great but he doesn't match his shoes with his pants!" You get the idea, very shallow. So she'll use these men for money or gifts or whatever, and then dump them. I can't stand people like this. If things don't go her way, she whines a lot. I also feel really bad about a co-worker she dated, who bought her things, treated her like gold, and she claimed she was falling in love with him. One night, she tells me they had sex. She then laughs and laughs with tears falling down her face saying it was the worst sex she ever had. Apparently his penis is so small, she couldn't feel anything and he didn't know how to move. So I said "Well, maybe he was a virgin and was too shy to tell you. Can't you just teach him?" Thinking that she's so in love with him, this was a good solution. She replies, "Are you kidding me? I can't live with a man who has a small dick! I just can't do it!" So then she tells me she told her boss (who set them up on the first date) and her boss, being a loud mouth, told all their co-workers. So now this poor guy's co-workers are nick naming him pencil-dick. It just disgusts me.
Another example. She has very little money working a job making 12 dollars an hour. We had planned to take a driving course together this summer, but she ditched me to do it with a guy. She proceeds to tell me her plans of buying a car. I try to explain to her that she cannot get a loan as she has BAD credit because she doesn't budget her money wisely and owes money on phone bills. I suggest to her that she buys a used car until she can save her money for a new one. Of course she doesn't listen to me and goes off with a guy to look into buying a brand new Kia. The same day we had plans for me to take her out and show her places within walking distance because she refuses to go alone for some reason. Anyway, she calls me that afternoon in tears and super whiney. She was trying to hint at me to co-sign on her loan, but I wasn't falling for that. The worst is that she said,
"NO ONE WILL GIVE ME A LOAN! I HATE AMERICA! NO WONDER PEOPLE ARE TERRORISTS! I'M GOING TO BE A TERRORIST!" I was so disgusted that I wanted to walk over to her apartment and punch her in the nose. What a selfish, spoiled princess bitch.
Why haven't I ended this yet? For one, I don't want to make enemies with my neighbour. I know how that could go down. Secondly, she recently gave me a pearl necklace for my Birthday (June 26th), and that has made me feel guilty. Thirdly, I'm a pussy. I don't know how to be mean to people.
On another note, it was mine and Robert's 1 year wedding anniversary on June 13th. As a gift to ourselves, we combined our money and bought a 37 inch HDTV. It's AMAZING! We're very proud of it. Next big purchase on the list is a new bedroom set with a new bed.
I've been experiencing some drama with co-workers at my job. It's a looong story, but I've decided to stick to myself and to stop being used (again) and treated like crap due to jealousy. Isn't it funny how things turn out? Maybe it's karma biting me in the ass, but regardless, I am still kicking ass at what I do and my bosses recognize it, so that's all that matters.
We recently discovered that someone tried to break into our apartment. Thank God they failed, but I took it serious enough that after I had maintenance come to repair the locks and the door, I contacted head of security. I must have seemed really pissed because the next day there were 6 security guards patrolling around our unit. I also noticed that there were pieces of clear tape attached to the frame on some of the doors. I mentioned it to head of security that it looked like the thieves were marking which apartments to hit. Apparently they patrolled around the area and discovered these pieces of tape all over the village. Hopefully the thieves have given up, but it was funny to have security calling ME with updates on what they were doing about the problem.
I purchased a Beta fish today. I don't know why, but today at work I decided to buy a fish. The poor little guy is a bit traumatized from the move, but I bought real water plants for his tank, and hopefully he will forgive me for ironically cooking fish for dinner tonight. I've named him Fu Man Chu. I'm a little concerned that he's not swimming around and just staying at the top gulping for air, but I don't know what else to do. I've put the special cleaning fluid in his water, I've fed him, set up the plants, etc. I hope he adjusts okay.
Lastly, and most importantly, I had my immigration interview on Saturday.
I'VE BEEN ACCEPTED FOR MY GREEN CARD!
After all this time, FINALLY, some closure. It's only a conditional permanent residency card, so in two years I will have to apply for permanent residency or citizenship, but at least it's a two year break and I've been told that as long as I don't break any laws, which I won't of course, applying for the rest will be a piece of cake.
Edit:
I've bought two new outfits, one of which I can maybe get away with in public, but the other, not so much. I post this for one simple reason. If I hear one more girl tell me how they wish they had bigger boobs, I'm going to kick them in the teeth. Why? Because big boobs prevent you from wearing sexy shirts that girls with smaller boobs can get away with all the time. Without looking like they should audition for a porn movie called Back Door Sluts 9. I tried naturally drying my hair (it is wavey) instead of blow-drying it straight, but I'm not sure if I like it.
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